Go to meetups that are around your interests and hobbies.įind facebook group within your area and post on there. I think everyone has a different capacity on how many friendships they can sustain but quality is more important than quantity. It can be a daunting and for me I do get anxious meeting new people but a lot of other women are in same boat and looking for much more deeper connections. This happened to me and I went into self-isolation which was good at the time but now i feel I am ready to socialize, make new connections and fulfilling friendships. Some people might stay at that energetic level and if you don't resonate with that then it's ok to let friendships go. If they are your real friends they will understand. If you don't like partying then do activities you feel more comfortable in and environments you enjoy. Certain lifestyles I just didn't resonate anymore including partying and consuming alcohol. In 30s its been challenging to make friends and usually that's because people have their own responsibilities too. Even the conversations don't resonate anymore.

As I changed and friends change too there is not much in common anymore.

I’m afraid I’m going to end up alone and lonely but I also want to be true to myself and only focus on fulfilling friendships. Is anyone else in this situation? Have you had success making new friends or have you just gotten more comfortable with having less friends as you get older? It feels so daunting to have to find and sustain all new friendships on top of dating.

I wish I had a partner and a family where I could focus on that too, but I don’t. I feel like I’m in such a weird spot where so many people are coupled up with families and don’t have the time to spend on forming new friendships. The problem is making all new friends at 35 years old. I keep turning down hangouts and outings and I feel like I’ve done a good job distancing myself but also feel like at this rate I am going to end up losing friends. I could go and not drink, but it’s hard to have fun when the activities planned are just bars and drinking. One is having a destination bachelorette soon, and I don’t want to go because I don’t want to feel like crap for 3 days in a place that could otherwise be a cool trip. I wish I could just go to dinner and grab a drink but it’s always an all night binge with the group and it’s difficult to extract myself/keep making excuses. Many are party friends who I always had fun with, but I’ve outgrown the partying and genuinely don’t enjoy it anymore. There are select people I enjoy spending time with but the group hangs and being around certain people feels exhausting to me now. I used to love this and pride myself on it, but ever since Covid and entering my mid 30s, I’ve reevaluated a lot of things in my life and feel like I don’t have much in common with some of these friends anymore and maybe never did. Maybe it’s partly due to social media, but I feel like I’ve managed to hold onto a lot of friends from high school and college. Do not try to play Rules Lawyer with the moderation team. The AWO30 moderation team reserves the discretion to remove posts and ban users that do not contribute positively to the community. You must request permission from the moderators in order to post academic surveys. If you wish to post an academic survey, it must have institutional/faculty sponsorship and IRB/ethics board approval. We do not permit marketing research nor surveys for commercial purposes. No spam/self-promotion – This is not the right place to advertise your blog or YouTube channel.No rate me posts/comments – This includes 'Would you date someone who ?' type posts.No misogyny/misandry – This includes and is not limited to broadly bashing men and women, transphobia, homophobia, and using dog-whistles from known sexist groups like the Red Pill, pick-up artists and dating-strategists.This includes, but is not limited to, xenophobia, bigotry against religious affiliation or disaffiliation, ableism, marital status, reproductive history, etc. No bigotry/TRASH – TRASH (Transphobia, Racism, Antisemitism, Sexism, or Homophobia) and any other forms of bigotry are prohibited in this subreddit.Arguing is fine, but start getting personal and you're outta here. No abusing other members – Abusing other community members is a banning offense.No relationship posts where everyone involved aren't 30+.No cougar posts/comments – This includes 'Would you date an -year-old?' or 'How do I attract older women?' posts.All are welcome, please read and abide by the rules in our sidebar. Welcome to AskWomenOver30, an inclusive Reddit community where people can ask question to and discuss topics with women over the age of 30.

Outgrowing childhood friends